She is another man’s mother, daughter or sister. Everyone deserves to have a home that is safe, especially children. A real man is the one who protects his family and controls himself at the time of anger.
Violence is the inappropriate use of power. Power is not bad in itself. However when it is used inappropriately, as in violence against women, it is important that people with positional power use it to change behaviour and attitudes.
‘Silence is the language of complicity … speaking out is the language of change’ is my personal maxim. This resonates with my commitment as an advocate and a feminist to persist in working towards social and political change.
I believe in the ‘power of naming’ as an effective strategy to break the silence about violence and abuse. Through our shared stories we discover new meanings and build strong connections that challenge the divisive tactics of violence and abuse and overcome the resultant isolation and self-blame experienced by women and children. Never underestimate the power of a story to create change.
As a survivor of domestic violence, my purpose now lies in changing the statistics through a preventative process in a holistic and inspiring way. My own experiences have driven me to become an advocate and an educator. I want to help empower all people to work towards ending violence in all its forms. Everyone has the right to feel and to be SAFE.
Preventing sexual and other forms of gender-based violence is possible – it is up to each and every one of us to take a stand on this issue every day of our lives. How we respond to this issue determines the kind of society in which all of us live and how we can make it better. Many men and boys are ethical and respectful of women and children – but we need more men and boys to commit to challenging attitudes towards gender-based violence and unacceptable behaviours by other men. Women need to stand beside other women to provide support and courage on their journey of recovery.