I can only hope that in my young daughter’s lifetime, she will witness and benefit from true equality between men and women, and an end to violence against women and girls – in all its forms.
I plan on spending the rest of my life telling stories through the eye of the lens – stories about subjects that really matter in this world. I hope to shed light on difficult issues, to create dialogue, raise awareness, to inspire and to make a difference. I just can’t wait to tell the next story and the story after that, and the story after that.
Recovery from sexually harmful behaviour is complex as a result of the strategies used by the person causing the harm and the variety of responses from the victims and those close to them. In intra-familial sexual abuse the experiences and needs of victims are often invisible. Others, especially mothers, are unfairly put in positions of blame or self-blame. To facilitate the recovery of the victims and their families, it is critical for all concerned to contribute to the unravelling of the circumstances – and for the offenders to accept responsibility.
Early in my counselling career, I had to face the uncomfortable reality that as a male raised in a patriarchal society, I was a beneficiary of the structural imbalance of power over women. So, when confronted with the opportunity to get involved in trying to stop violence in the home against women and children, I felt like I had an obligation to do so. My gender is mainly responsible for the problem, so I felt and still feel a duty to be a part of the solution.